Pathological lying + compulsive lying = indecipherable fog

I searched my text messages yesterday looking for an exchange with a friend and it retuned a bunch of shit with my exBPD. As I was reading little bits I was thinking “that’s a lie, she lied about that for months, more lies.” I think she was both a pathological liar and compulsive liar. Some of it was clear manipulation and others just seem like they were for shits and giggles. The combination made it impossible to decipher the “logic” in her thinking, particularly in the context of issues in our relationship. It was not only gaslighting but also simply adding confusion for the sake of it. Not sure if you all experienced this too but I think it prolonged my relationship because I’m stubborn and thought I could convince her of things she wasn’t even open to hearing out. No wonder these relationships are so hard. You can’t tell what the reality is until it becomes perfectly clear that the reality they create is anything but a delusion.