Do pwBPD need an unequitable level of consideration?

Is there a general understanding that a pwBPD needs an unequitable level of consideration? Like there is an expectation that there be nearly endless levels of consideration to protect the pwBPD from shame or stigma, but at the expense even of, such as, when they do or say something hurtful or offensive, we are supposed to be understanding and give them a pass every time. Understanding that they are unlikely to give to us if the situation were reversed?