Is there room for nuance here?

Hi! I wanted to provide a ~nuanced~ take to this whole thing. My qualifications are I'm autistic and struggle the most with following social "rules".

1. I wish he hadn't said that word. I really, really wish he hadn't said it. That's not how reclaiming a slur works, however

2. He posted on here that he thought it was ok, because the use of that slur against him was justified for the same reason. As an autistic, I completely and totally understand not "getting" the social rules, like he talked about. That doesn't make it ok, but does make it understandable. Autistic people are disabled. Sometimes, we do things that are rude and offensive, because we are socially disabled. If we're going to tackle ableism, people have got to be willing to give others grace for fucking up.

3. However, I do wish he would apologize, perhaps privately on his private twitter or on here. Idk.

4. Lots of the CCs clowning on him either have done or support people who have done much worse things (cough cough Quackity cough cough). Seriously, I care way more about someone violating workers rights for a long ass time than someone saying a slur on twitter.

5. I wish both sides would be mature about this whole thing, but clearly Jack and Tommy are not going to be, and I understand how frustrating it can be to be the bigger person. I'm certainly disappointed, but I won't be leaving the fandom because of this. Even though I'm not happy with what he did, I get why he did it.