What is up with Iris

So I just started watching the CWs flash, so if you respond to anything please no spoilers 😔🙏 anyway it’s good but I can’t get over Iris why is she so mad about them not telling her and why is she communicating it like this. My way of explaining this is horrible but why is she just like not listening to anything Barry or Joe is telling her? Like imagine if MJ got mad at Peter for not telling her he’s Spider-Man and getting even madder that he told Tony stark about it too. I understand fully why they didn’t tell her, because she’s for lack of a better word nosy (perfect fit for a journalist) and she doesn’t have the strength training like Joe, Eddie and Barry when it comes to having to face some of these people. And she doesn’t have the scientific knowledge to be able to help it that aspect so all that she would end up being is someone who could just get hurt. Granted some of the points I’ve seen so far in the show (her having great information on perps, her knowing prior would have let her take precautionary measures for herself) while they do give an edge to the team the risk that she faces is far to great to justify her being in the know. Everyone who knows at this given point knows because they are able to not only take care of themselves but they are also able to help Barry when he’s in the time of crisis.

Sorry for this long post this has just been bugging me since she found out and I feel I need some clearance before I can continue the show so I’m able to focus on it and not how much I want to yell at Iris.

(I should also mention that I feel like shit for thinking of her like this because her feelings are warranted I guess but I just can’t wrap my head around the why)