Second Update to “Letter to MIL”
Somewhere between needing TLC and give it to me straight.
For those of you who remember my MIL who verbally assaulted me, amongst other things.
https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/s/uIKJYwKowv
I told her not to contact me. So she dropped off a Xmas card at my house to apologize and request we sit down and talk about our feelings. I very much ignored this. Haven’t talked to her in months.
Today we visited her house (which my husband owns and she rents) due to my BIL’s wedding being tomorrow. I was cordial but aloof. She stayed away from me as my husband politely told her in a text earlier this week.
My husband gifted her a collage frame for Xmas that she filled with photos of my baby, husband and just one of me. The photo she chose is from my birthing room. Where I am naked, though covered by a sheet and with an exposed boob cropped out. The photo is beautiful and has both my husband and baby in it as well. It’s very intimate, very special to me, and very personal. She did not ask to print and display it. And I know for a fact that she did this after verbally attacking me and me telling her not to contact me. Because I’m the one that ordered the frame, even though my husband is the one who gave it to her.
It feels like she chose the most personal and vulnerable photo she could and plastered it on the wall. I think I legitimately hate her. So please tell me, should I ask my husband to ask her to replace it with a different photo? Should I just let her be a strange person who hangs other peoples birth photos and let it go? It bothers me and I wish it didn’t. But it’s not her intimate photo to display. It’s mine.
I don’t want it there but I also don’t want to give anymore emotional energy to her. Which I’m doing by posting here. Sigh.
Please be gentle. Don’t get me too charged up. Just tell me what you would do if someone who has emotionally abused you hung your intimate photos on their wall.
Is she as cruel as she seems or does she just not understand basic boundaries and kindness?