MIL called our pediatrician..

First time posting here. Have loved reading everyone else's drama, it's comforting to know you're not alone.

Typical MIL stuff. Entitlement, overly critical, some narcissistic traits, since deciding to get pregnant and have babies (the last 2 years with IVF BBs are 9mo) her behavior has increasingly spiraled and become more erratic and problematic.

She's older (late 70s) and my spouse is her only child. They've always had a fraught relationship. She has received a lot of sympathy at not having grandchildren (up until a few years ago we were team DINK), and was both for and very against us having kids.

Some highlights-

Sent pretty regular aggressive and borderline abusive emails during my pregnancy accusing us of keeping her from her grandchildren. While I was pregnant..

When we would share information she would immediately criticize our choices or complain that she was supposed to decide (names, nursery furniture, etc).

We had to block her on social media as she would call:text:email if she saw something about the kids or saw someone with the kids and complain/yell about how it was unfair to her.

The twins were premature, three days after their birth we invited her to the hospital. She sent an email later complaining that I didn't offer her my seat and haven't sent her enough greeting cards over the course of my marriage.

Ten days after delivery she asked if I had lost the baby weight yet.

We had to put her on a no gift rule, as she would complain that we didn't say thank you good enough. She still tried to sneak gifts in under the guise of "not gifts".

She told us a few months ago that she is a "grandma now and that's special" and that we "aren't treating [her] like the special grandma [she] deserves to be treated".

After the babies came home from the NICU we all got Covid. She yelled at us because she left a birthday card on the porch and I didn't thank her appropriately.

She has given our address out to her friends to send gifts after we've told her not to.

Most recently, and what has pushed us into v v low contact:

We have a two week travel rule with the twins, if you've been on a commercial flight you'll need to wait two weeks to see them or come over. They're preemies and it's flu/RSV season.

She is a travel bug and won't cancel her plans to see the kids, so she hasn't seen them since Thanksgiving. She asked about visiting and we asked about her travel plans. She pushed back and was vague so I requested her boarding pass or flight receipt so we could check dates and make plans.

You can imagine how it went.

Turns out she called our kids pediatrician (small town, but still..). Our ped told her that five days with a mask should be fine.

Lots of drama ensued. I'm still pretty icked at our Dr for what feels like a HIPAA violation (even tho I'm sure my MIL was vague and asking in hypotheticals).

My MIL of course emailed us and accused us of lying to her about our two week rule, when my spouse pushed back she became super snide. Spouse asked for a break.

She's emailed/texted four times since then.

This was 3 days ago.

Thanks for letting me type all this out.