“How far along are you?”

My boyfriend made this “joke” to me over the weekend, before our celebratory Valentine’s Day dinner. I don’t get to dress up much, so I chose a dress I don’t normally wear, that was perhaps too form fitting around my uterus area. My PCOS causes bloating, even after drinking water. I don’t know why or what caused him to say this. But damn, as a woman, that hurt a lot.

It sucks because it felt invalidating in two ways: one, that it’s nearly impossible for me to conceive due to a lack of a period, and two, my body reacting to something completely out of my control. Just needed to get it off my chest. No one should say that to any woman in my opinion. It’s hard not to be offended.