Why Would a woman want children?
Excuse me if my post might seem bashing or misogynistic, If its not allowed mods please delete. English is not my first language so please bear with me.
I don't think I will ever understand or quite grasp the Idea of women wanting more than anything to be mothers or bearing children especially in a modern times. I could understand it in the past because women had no say, they were relegated to be breeding stock and marriage was the license to breed her 10+ children against her will. I will never understand in contemporary times where women now have a choice to pursue a career, a CF life, a life of solitude, a life of not having to please a man and just a life of Choice. I am not a woman, that's why its hard for me to understand what its like to be their shoes and why they choose the life they choose. I have seen the term "baby fever" and though I am skeptical if its a real desire that is uncontrollable or just a manipulation term borne from clandestine breeders who want to demonize a CF life.
I speak in the context of the local laws in my country where a man has a free pass especially in terms of Domestic responsibilities. A man in my country can impregnate a woman, then decide "you know what being a parent is actually a shitty deal, but I wish you luck in your future" then he is gone and nothing you can do besides report him to the child maintenance department that will drag its feet, and when they do actually find him IF he does have an income he is not compelled to provide more than 1/3 of his income to the upkeep of his child and if he is not employed well tough luck you are on your own.
The other issue is pregnancy in itself looks like a horrible state of being, you have swollen feet, Huge belly and you need help or a second pair of hands to help you do basic things, you need regular doctor appointments and its back and forth trips and expensive medical expenses, and lets not talk about child birth its one of the most horrifying things that happens your body gets stretched and you go through painful labor ALL ALONE, and the man well he sits around most likely chatting to other women on the apps without feeling an ounce of pain. I think its why men are more than happy to be fathers because it is a painless and carefree state you carry nothing.
I have also observed through friends and colleagues who have become mothers that there is a HUGE undeniable air of REGRET, even though they dont want to admit it, I see it clear as day that they would rather have been CF, I will take a few examples:
Colleague (A) was one of the smartest women I have come across very well put together kept to herself shy and loved to get fit avid reader and loved the outdoors, on one of the team building trips she met *hishiko* a guy from a different state but from the same department, typical ladies man with the charisma,well dressed and good-looks to swoon women, she fell head over heels for him and not long she was pregnant probably sold her a typical fantasy life of a picket fence, mum dad child car dog in a leafy suburb. what turned out was anything but. He put on the slow fade maneuver hardly answered calls, getting in touch with him he showed an aggressive side like he didn't want to be bothered. the baby was born with him not even being at the hospital. she slide into a state of depression, she was all alone with a baby that wouldn't stop crying. debts pilled up as all the baby expenses were on her, her career hit a dead end as she couldn't take any time off to pursue a degree or improve on her skills her life was being a mommy for good she is still stuck in the loop of - getting up early-get the child ready for school-drive the child to school-show up to work baggy eyes tired-do the minimal effort-go to pick the child from school and drop him off to after care-come back to work-do the minimal effort drive back home REPEAT.
Colleague (B) was almost a carbon copy she was slightly younger in her early 20s met an older guy * darren* who saw she was his ticket to salvation knocked her up fast and married her, his life consisted of knocking her up over and over and being on the coach watching the game with a beer stain tshirt, while she cooked, cleaned worked and be mummy with one on the hip and one in the belly with 2 running around on the rug. they get evicted from apartment to apartment because all the expenses are on her and she cant keep up with rent. his job is just to knock her up and drink beer and sit on the couch all day.
I could go on and on but I think you all get the gist of what I am trying to say, that most women I know their life regressed to a big pile of shit the moment they decided to get kids because , 1 they will be forever attached to the knob-head that knocked them up and they are forever parents, 2 their bodies are a waste of what they used to be, 3 they careers go to a dead end and they are a full time mommy, 4 they go into such massive debt as the spawns of Satan costs a ton of money.
but you still get women EVEN after seeing their friends and family go through all the difficulties of parenting STILL want to be mommies.