Struggling with My Identity as a Submissive Male !

Hey everyone, I need to get something off my chest, and I hope this reaches someone who understands. I’ve been feeling really ashamed about being a submissive male, and I’m not sure if it’s just me or if society really looks down on it.

So, my story starts back in college. I was dating my first girlfriend, and at first, I tried to act all dominant, you know? But honestly, I didn’t feel that excitement. As we got closer, she started taking charge, and to my surprise, I found myself enjoying it. We explored BDSM together, and I discovered that I actually liked being submissive. It was a whole new world for me, and I felt a sense of freedom I hadn’t experienced before.

But then things went south after we broke up. She started telling everyone that I was a coward and a submissive, spreading rumors among our friends. It was so humiliating. I never realized she wanted me to be dominant all the time; I thought it was okay to switch roles. But she made it seem like my submissive side was something to be ashamed of, and it really messed with my head.

Now, I’m left feeling confused and ashamed. Why do I feel pleasure in submission? Why does society make it seem like being a submissive man is something to hide? I’ve been struggling with this for a while, and it’s exhausting. I just wanted to share my experience and maybe find someone who can relate.

Thanks for listening and please don’t judge the way I’ve expressed this. I just needed to vent.