Someone told me I lost my spark

I wanted to know if this has happened to anyone else…

I’ve been at my job now for 10 years. For all of those years I feel I have been a massive push over. Mainly because I had no self worth. People have spoken to me like crap, treated me terrible, used me and I’ve just felt very unseen. But for the most part for the friends I have at work I’ve been the one people can talk to. The one people can come to when they’re having a bad day. I’ve been the funny one. The nice one. I think all of this was down to the low opinion I had of myself and I had a veil over the insecurities surrounds my weight.

Since having this surgery at the end of may last year, I’ve lost almost 6 stone. I haven’t told anyone apart from my husband, mum and brother. My friends and people at work think I’ve been dieting. In the last few months I’ve finally been seeing changes in my body and also feeling different about people around me. People around me are also seeing the changes. The confidence boost for the most part has been amazing and I wouldn’t change my choice to have the sleeve for the world. Now that my self worth is higher I’m not allowing people to talk to me or treat me like rubbish. So to my close friends it seems I have lost a spark but deep down it’s more than that. I’m seeing how much I was used. I’m seeing how much I was taken for granted. And I’m not allowing it anymore. I have boundaries. But these new boundaries are being seen as mean. I’ve potentially lost two friends for standing up for myself more. It makes me feel low that because I’m happier and loving this new lease of life I have that other people are putting me down for it. I had a bad day at work yesterday and someone made a comment that I stood up to them for and then the comment was made by someone else that I’d lost my spark. But no, the reality is I now have confidence to stand up to the nasty people.

Sorry for the rant, I just wondered if anyone else has been made to feel like the good changes for themselves have been considered ‘bad’ to the people around them?