Would you be upset if your husband spent a full night partying while you were pregnant with a toddler?

This is a genuine question, not a “take my side cus men are idiots” question.

Husband had a bachelor party of one of his very closest friends last night. Of course I was supportive of him going, but figured he’d moderate and not go too hard.

Well after a very long night of me being up every hour with a very sad, teething 13mo — he finally shows up at 5am. Not to mention that I’m 19wks pregnant with my 2nd. And he was absolutely hammered. Probably the drunkest he’s ever gotten since we’ve been together (5yrs now).

I really do believe that we should still get to have fun and be our own people, despite being parents to young kids. But does this cross a line? It’s the first time he’s stayed out since our daughter was born so maybe I shouldn’t make a bid deal out of it, and it is out of character for him, but what if we needed him last night? And he was too drunk to remember how a phone worked? I feel like this level of partying simply becomes irresponsible once you become a parent, regardless of the context. And now he’s probably going to spend the whole day reeking like whisky on the couch.

What do y’all think? Is the very, very occasional partying night ok when you have young kids? Or is it just completely inappropriate in your eyes?

(Sorry not specifically granola but this is one of the only bearable, level headed “mommy subs” on this app)

Edit: I did ask him to not drink too much because we’re in the middle of moving this week and need to get shit done, and we talked about being home around bar close (2am here). But in an attempt not to nag we definitely didn’t talk enough about expectations beforehand, and that’s on me.

Edit 2: More details have revealed themselves — he was so drunk that he got kicked out of the strip club he said they weren’t gonna go to and then was wandering downtown for two hours because he was too wasted to figure out how to call an Uber. I’ve decided that I’m indeed letting myself be pissed.