Feeling lost, in need of resources in germany
Hello everyone, I don't know if this is the right sub Reddit to post this to but i feel like everyone here can understand the way my mind operates after all the bs i went through with my nparents.
I moved to another country away from my nparents at 23 last year. I was finally able to live my life as an adult and experience adult responsibilities. I thought things would get better but things are so overwhelming. I ended up in a job position that exploits me (i finally understood my worth though and I'm looking for a way to change jobs) and i keep going through so many obstacles that i might've been able to get over with less trauma if i was raised by loving parents who taught me how to go through life.
Lately I've been working between 10~12h/day for a week to meet the insane deadlines my boss has set for me. Physically and mentally overworked and i ended up falling sick but still needing to go to work. When i vent to my friends they tell me its easy just say no and stand up for yourself but I can't bring myself to do that and we all know how much being raised in a narcissistic household takes part in that. It's so hard seeing my worth, not looking for approval, not pushing myself to the limits, setting my boundaries. It's so so hard and I'm trying my best to unlearn that. But from an individual who has been raised in a normal environment, this is just the norm and I'm being stupid and irrational.
The same week, there has been a breach to the company and the hackers used that to impersonate my boss when he was out of the office and contact me, ended up losing all of my savings from the last 4 months in one day, 2 days before an important deadline at work. I wasn't able to get the money back but my boss told me that he will compensate and that i "should concentrate on meeting the deadline and finishing my tasks". You can imagine how much that affected my mental health and self esteem. He promised that the next salary will include the compensation but I can't help but think he said that to make me concentrate on finishing the tasks.
My boyfriend kept telling me to not blame myself for whats happening, that it's not my fault the breach happened. That i should be more gentle with myself and that he wishes i could see myself the way he sees me. He keeps telling me that I'm doing amazing for everything that i went through. And I'm very grateful for all of that and for his presence but sometimes when I'm alone i cant help the thoughts that pop up to my brain.
Navigating all of this in a foreign country where i don't speak the language has been draining. I'm burnt out, traumatized, tired in every aspect, alone, anxious and I don't think I'm in the right mental space to make any decisions. I dont think i can do this alone anymore and i need therapy. I need to unlearn the past 24 years of my life and i need a professional help for that. So if anyone knows where i can find English speaking therapists in germany. And if it's possible to have therapy in germany on weekends because i work full time. Any tips and activities i can fo as a full timer in Germany who's trying to better herself would be great.
I appreciate anyone who took the time to read this post and reply and I'm very grateful this subreddit exists.